Pattern

Examples Accumulate

A leader reacts to a mistake, competing pressures, or unclear ground in a shared setting. People need to know what counts as OK. Clear rules are missing or thin. - People watch others when things are unclear - What people see moves faster than written rules - Early reactions set what feels allowed - Silence and emphasis both send a signal What the leader does—especially under pressure—quickly sets what others treat as acceptable. Careful what we model in the room; examples accumulate faster than anything we post on the wiki.

Related concepts

Concept

Correction

Correction is reality-contact and revisability: the lived work of noticing mismatch, updating beliefs or behavior, and narrowing the gap between what was assumed and what is actually happening before drift hardens into normal.

Concept

Harm

Where cost lands when influence is exercised: who absorbs it, who is kept in view, and what displacement is treated as acceptable.

Concept

Vitality

The state of a group when influence can sustain coordinated action as reach grows—how open the group is to revision and how workable coordination remains in the moment. Contrasts with decay; sustained renewal tends toward vitality.

Related books

Book

When Others Look to You

Renewal and Erosion in Leadership

A leadership field guide to how influence forms, how trust is renewed, and how erosion begins when responsibility drifts from practice.

Book

Coupling

Cohesion, Consequence, and the Architecture of Responsibility

A practical framework for seeing where systems are tightly joined, where they drift apart, and how those coupling choices shape accountability over time.